How do we parent adult children?
I used to think that parenting was hardest when my children were so dependent on me for everything, which started when they were infants. However, as my children grew up, went off to college, and then moved out of the house I realized parenting became a whole lot harder. I know that must sound strange because I no longer dressed them, helped them with homework, transported them to ballgames, cooked their meals, or did their laundry.
So what makes parenting adult children so difficult?
Of course, as Christian parents our goal is to help train our children to be productive, independent, God-fearing, young people. So, while they are in our home we try, by God’s grace, to point them in right directions and help them set right priorities.
Once they are on their own, our parenting role changes drastically.
At this point in their lives the best thing we can do for them is pray.
Many Christian parents are heartbroken because of prodigal children. Parents should be reminded that the verse,
"Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6
is a principle found in Proverbs and not a promise. Once our children become adults they are accountable to God for their choices. Parents are not to blame for these choices.
What is the parents’ role at this point?
There are no perfect parents.
We must depend on God’s guidance and grace.
Patenting is truly a gift from God.
We are stewards of special treasures. We should make the most of every moment. From infancy through adulthood we need to trust God with our children realizing He loves them even more than we do. And continually we pray, pray, pray.
“Pray without ceasing.” I Thessalonians 5:17
What is your prayer today for the adult children in your life?
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