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Conflict Management in the Home

5/8/2020

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Conflict Management in the Home During COVID-19
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​Doors slamming, voices raised, looks of frustration and disgusted, and even the occasional silent treatment have been some of the sounds of our quarantine. I know this may be shocking to hear, but with thirteen people cooped up in one home for going on eight weeks, it is unavoidable. Try as we may to escape the conflict of many personalities, age ranges, and agendas, we end up seeing the clash of the Rossiters on many fronts. Yes, I know this flies in the face of the “Home Sweet Home” sign you may have envisioned, but transparency and real-life are winning out today.
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Being the go-between on the Western Front of Rossiterville can be exhausting. Just when you think the battle is over and peace has been restored, fighting breaks out on another front. (I'm a teacher. Can you tell I am currently teaching about World War I?) However, the Bible has clearly laid out principles that can resolve the greatest of wars. Today, we are going to look at these principles using this phrase/acrostic, “Timely Restraint Unifies Chaotic Events."

Timely Restraint Unifies Chaotic Events

​Timely

How often have I said, ”It is not what you say but how and when you say it?” What may have been fine to say to your sister a few minutes ago when her outfit was popping and her hair was all in place, may not be ok when the sweet tea has spilled all down the front of her. A comment of a teasing nature will not sit as well on the plate next to a tired or stressed out school day. 
Many of the conflicts in our home begin with not using the eyes and ears God has given us. We speak without surveying the land on which it will be hearld. Proverbs 25:11 reminds us that, ​
“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”
Scripture also says the opposite is true. Ecclesiastes 3:7b states,
”...a time to keep silent, and a time to speak."
 Knowing when and where to say something will go a long way in avoiding disagreements.

Restraint

Holding your tongue when you really just want to blurt it out is a lifelong discipline. At every age, the struggle is real! Proverbs 25:28 says,
“He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down and without walls.” 
Ruling your spirit finds its roots in ruling your tongue. If you can hit the pause button on that comeback, you are well on your way to being a fortified city. Many grown individuals have fallen prey to an unprotected life because they never learned to stop their tongue in its tracks. As believers, the lock and key rest squarely in the Holy Spirit’s hands and aren’t we thankful for that!? Left up to this sinful momma, our home would resemble a castle of rubble. John 14:26 should give us confidence as it reminds us that,
“The Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, will TEACH you everything and remind you of all I told you.”
What amazing solid ground we can stand on when we know that we have the companionship of a TEACHER with us at all times to guide us to know restraint and control.

Unifies

What is the purpose of being both timely and using restraint in our words? If we lose sight of why we should behave in such a manner, then we will quickly get off course. Unity is not just a goal for Rossiterville, it is the will of God. Ephesians 4:3 stresses this point,
“Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” 
What a powerful verse! Here we find both a reference to the Spirit, where we are taught restraint and that it is a struggle, as we see in the usage of the word effort. Paul is encouraging the church at Ephesus that if they are going to throw their efforts into anything, make it be unity. Absence of unity means an absence of sweet relationships and peaceful days. I often remind my children that God has given them built-in best friends. How they speak and treat their siblings today will live on past this moment. They are investing in a lifetime of precious memories and bonds. Keeping this goal in front of them is not only an important endeavor for today but a paying-it-forward for generations to come.

Chaotic

Well, my husband just ordered me a t-shirt that reads “Chaos Coordinator.” Not a day goes by when that word is not a fitting description of our home. From 5 years old to 23, everyone has something going on in their own world. Adding any measure of discord just turns up the level to the extreme in a second. It is a good thing to remind the people we love that life will always be filled with a certain amount of chaos. Circumstances come and go in our day. One minute all is well, the next minute you are trapped in your house for weeks on end. Disagreements, arguments, squabbles, tiffs, any name you want to give them, are only going to fuel an already lit flame. Being under pressure will follow us through every phase of life. Raising a generation that brings a bucket of water instead of a bucket of fuel to the chaos is missing in our current culture. I am not suggesting a lack of resolve to stand for right. I am however suggesting that timely, restrained words should always be our mode of operation in our private lives, like our homes, as well as in our public lives.

Events

This has been a good word for me during this pandemic. This current status is just an event. It is not the entirety of our lives. Sometimes in conflict, we are blinded to the fact that the current response or reaction doesn’t define the whole of a relationship or a person. We should willingly cover for each other. Everyone has an off day. All of us react in our flesh at times. Wars escalate when each aggression is handled with an attack mentality. Instead, we should be on a constant peace-making mission. 1 Peter 4:8 states, 
“And above all things have fervent love among yourselves, for love covers a multitude of sins.”
Giving a pass to a friend, sibling, or stranger and laying a blanket of love over their offenses gives an opportunity for peace to continue. ​
A TRUCE is our goal. We need to cease from strife and fight for peace in our relationships and homes. Today, may be a wash with squabbles and offenses, but that is just an event. Tomorrow is another chance to see timely restraint that unifies chaotic events into something beautiful and full of peace. 
Christine
How have you successfully handled conflict management in your home?
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Donna Reidland link
5/8/2020 10:05:06 am

Christine, what a timely post! I'm pinning, tweeting and sharing!

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Calvonia Radford link
5/8/2020 10:33:00 am

"What amazing solid ground we can stand on when we know that we have the companionship of a TEACHER with us at all times to guide us to know restraint and control." I love how you painted a picture of the Holy Spirit as our teacher. I knew He was our teacher. But today, it sinks in. It is so much easier to get to the solution, understand the concept or simply breathe when a compassionate teacher stands beside you. Thank you for that lovely reminder today.

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Beth Steffaniak link
5/11/2020 10:21:30 am

Great wisdom, Christine! Thank you for boldly sharing this! I pray it helps many.

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Ashley Rowland | HISsparrowBlog link
5/11/2020 10:37:53 am

Love this! You have several great reminders here. I especially loved this one: "We should willingly cover for each other. Everyone has an off day. All of us react in our flesh at times. Wars escalate when each aggression is handled with an attack mentality."

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