“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.” Matthew 5:43-48
These are the very things we don’t want to do when it comes to someone who isn’t a friend to us. However, these are the things Jesus calls us to do. How do we begin? Here are eight things you can do to help yourself love someone who doesn’t love you back.
8 Ways To Love Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back:
When you’ve done all these things, stay open to what God may do in your relationship to the person with whom you struggle. Remember, you can’t change the heart of any other person, but God absolutely can change the heart. Hope in Him. As you seek to live peaceably through praying, loving, and blessing someone who doesn’t love you back, you are being obedient to the Lord, and that is the most important thing. Who knows, but God may so turn the heart of the other person that the two of you may one day become the best of friends!
If you have ever had the experience of trying to love someone who doesn't love you back (haven't we all?) we'd want to hear your story! Please share in the comments below.
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6/21/2019 09:41:30 am
Thank you so much for gently encouraging us to love those who don't love us back.
6/22/2019 01:46:32 am
Number 6 speaks volumes. My post God Pleasers is up, who we want to please instead of people. Good read and advice.
6/24/2019 11:02:37 am
Especially loved this line: Seek to be a blesser not a pleaser. I can so relate to being a people-pleaser.
"Seek to be a blesser not a pleaser." I love this one. I struggle with people pleasing. Yes, I have had my share of loving people who don't love back. I have to say it was well worth it. I may not get the - I love you's but I know it is felt. One way I find it easy it so say to myself, "I'm doing this for God."
8/31/2020 06:26:00 pm
I love that quote too, Maree! I struggle with people please, just as you do. And I love how you say, "I'm doing this for God." That puts a whole new mindset on it! :)
6/8/2020 03:40:21 pm
Thank you for this message
8/31/2020 06:27:23 pm
It's a post I have to keep revisiting over and over to remind myself of how to love people who don't love me back, Kelechi. I'm so thankful for Stephanie putting this into words for us! —Patsy
10/14/2020 01:52:29 pm
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12/8/2020 06:06:38 pm
So thankful that you found this helpful, Pandit! It's so important that we find ways to love people who don't return that love. It's difficult sometimes, but it is always necessary!
3/21/2021 11:08:17 pm
Thank you for sharing this!!! I really need this at this poibt in ny life!
I can sense that you have a humble heart like me. People nowadays don't like humility. They confuse it for low self esteem. Thirty years ago, things were so different, especially in the Middle East. Most people were genuinely humble and warm. Imagine how things were like during Jesus' time! No wonder the Bible says: "the love of many will grow cold." Stay blessed.
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