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5 Questions to Ask About Your Prayer Life

2/12/2021

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5 Questions to Ask About Your Prayer Life
Prayer. That one word represents so many things to me: peace, beauty, communion, praise, duty, failure, distraction, forgetfulness, absence, frustration.
 
What do you think of when you think of prayer?
  • Are you so busy during your day you often forget to pray?
  • Are you so plagued by guilt over sin or lack of prayer you don’t want to pray?
  • Are you so out of practice in prayer that you don’t know how to pray?
  • Are you so in love with your God that you pray continually throughout your day?
  • Are you so ritualistic in your prayer times that you don’t remember what you prayed?
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​Prayer is one of the most precious aspects of the Christian life. 
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When you stop to think about it, it can be overwhelming how awesome it is that we have the ability to talk to our Creator and Savior whenever we want. We have perpetual access to the wisest, most powerful Being in the universe.

​But on a day-to-day basis, what does that mean? How does that work? If I genuinely desire to grow closer to God, why do I struggle with prayer? These questions recently prompted me to do a self-diagnostic test about my own prayer life that I’d like to share with you.

Question 1: Do I Desire to Pray?

This one is a little tricky, because we all know that we make time to do the things we truly want to do. I’ve struggled with this knowledge in the past because, while I know that prayer is important, I don’t always make the time for it. Many of the times I do pray, I become distracted by inconsequential things.
 
I’m such a multi-tasker that I often try to talk to God while I’m doing something mundane like washing the dishes or driving. Then, I get distracted. After adding dish soap, gloves, and toothpaste to my mental shopping list, I’ll realize that before I started thinking about our lack of dish soap, I was talking to God about…something.
I constantly allow things as silly as my to-do list, my book, or my television to become small idols in my life that I desire more than prayer. While this is wrong, I do reach a point where I realize this, confess it, and take the time to pray to my Savior.
 
What does that tell me? While I am imperfect, the desire to pray is still present in my heart. That means I have a solid foundation upon which to build my prayer life. Why? Because God laid that foundation by placing within me a desire to know Him and please Him when He saved me.

Question 2: Do I Purposefully Act on that Desire?

Ouch. Question one was painful because it exposes patterns of practical idolatry and self-indulgence that hamper my prayer life, but this one makes me realize where my struggle with consistent prayer comes from.
 
It might seem like a silly question, but do you pray on purpose? Not before you eat, or while you’re driving because you have nothing else to do and talking to God seems like a good thing to do. Those prayers are great, but do you have a purposeful prayer time?
 
Even during my Bible reading time, my prayer is often quick and surface-level. “Thank you, Lord, for this truth in your Word. Help me to apply it to my life today.” Something along those lines. But often I don’t take time out of my day to sit down and purposefully communicate with God.
My husband doesn’t appreciate a lack of attention when I have a conversation with him. If my mind is busy brainstorming a shopping list or analyzing a character arc from a book I just finished, my conversation with my husband really doesn’t count. I’m not present. I’m not there in the moment, so I’m not actually communicating.
 
Prayer works the same way. If we aren’t purposefully setting aside time along with mental and emotional focus, we aren’t praying. We’re just saying empty words.

Question 3: Do I Understand the Purpose of my Prayers?

The Lord’s prayer in Scripture begins with praise for God’s name, recognizes God’s will as the most important thing, petitions God for the supply of daily needs, and petitions God for forgiveness, help in forgiving others, and protection from temptation, before ending with more praise. ​
This is our Lord’s beautiful pattern for us to follow. We will not always follow this pattern exactly, but these are the essential elements.
 
What you’ll notice from the Lord’s prayer is that it’s God-focused. We are focusing on His power in our weakness, His omniscience in our fear, His sovereignty in our confusion, and His forgiveness in our unrighteousness. Prayer is not about me. It is about God. However, a healthy prayer life that is focused on praising God and seeking His will grows our self-awareness and self-understanding, which will in turn enliven our prayer lives with gratitude and praise. It’s a beautiful cycle designed by God for our good and His glory.
 
The purpose of our prayers is not immediate satisfaction, fulfillment, healing, or removal of temptation. Prayer acknowledges God’s sovereignty in our lives, focuses our attention on Him instead of ourselves, and expresses faith in His will even when we don’t get what we ask for. In short, prayer is all about how great God is and how small we are. Prayer is the ultimate
expression of our faith in and reliance on God.
If we only pray when we’re in need of something, we’re treating God more like a good luck charm than a sovereign Savior.

Question 4: Am I Committed to Learning to Pray?

While prayer comes from a heart of love and worship for God, we don’t have to wait around for a mystical experience to transform us into devoted prayer warriors. Like anything else in our spiritual lives, prayer begins with a foundation of God-given desire, but that foundation is put there for us to build upon.
 
Prayer can be learned as an intentional habit.

​If God has given you the desire to grow your prayer life, you still have to purposefully choose to pray. That might seem pretty basic, but like any other habit, you have to choose to develop it. Everyone develops habits differently, but to successfully build a habit, you have to be purposeful, consistent, and disciplined.

You may desire to run a marathon (I don’t know why, but you may), but if you don’t purposefully set aside consistent time to train and discipline yourself to follow through with your schedule, you’ll never make it to the finish line.
 
If you’re a child of God, you aren’t training on your own. You have an internal Personal Trainer for spiritual fitness continually prompting you to run faster towards Christ. But to attain a consistent, relationship-deepening, heart-healing prayer life, you have to personally sacrifice the time, focus, and energy required.

Question 5: Am I Enjoying the Process of Prayer?

While prayer is a habit that needs to be cultivated, we have an indwelling Helper and Teacher to guide us. We don’t have to wait for a future race and finish line to enjoy the product of our “labor,” because once we actually commit time to prayer, the sweet blessings are instantaneous.
Like everything else, our prayer lives are a continual process that we won’t ever perfect, but the journey closer to God is the continually rewarding spiritual treasure hunt of the Christian life. May we be able to say with the Psalmist:
“As the hart panteth after the water brooks, So panteth my soul after thee, O God. My soul thirsteth for God, for the living God: When shall I come and appear before God?” Psalms 42:1-2
Cami

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Prayer is so hard that unless circumstances demand it―an illness, or saying grace at a meal―most of us simply do not pray. We prize accomplishments and productivity over time in prayer. Even Christians experience this prayerlessness―a kind of practical unbelief that leaves us marked by fear, anxiety, joylessness, and spiritual lethargy.

Prayer is all about relationship. Based on the popular seminar by the same name, A Praying Life has discipled thousands of Christians to a vibrant prayer life full of joy and power. When Jesus describes the intimacy He seeks with us, He talks about joining us for dinner (Revelation 3:20). A Praying Life feels like having dinner with good friends. It is the way we experience and connect to God. In A Praying Life, author Paul Miller lays out a pattern for living in relationship with God and includes helpful habits and approaches to prayer that enable us to return to a childlike faith.
​“This book will be like having the breath of God at your back. Let it lift you to new hope.” ―Dan B. Allender, PhD, author of Bold Love

​Renowned pastor and New York Times bestselling author of The Prodigal Prophet Timothy Keller explores the power of prayer in his book Prayer: Experiencing Awe and Intimacy with God​.

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Christians are taught in their churches and schools that prayer is the most powerful way to experience God. But few receive instruction or guidance in how to make prayer genuinely meaningful. In Prayer, renowned pastor Timothy Keller delves into the many facets of this everyday act.

With his trademark insights and energy, Keller offers biblical guidance as well as specific prayers for certain situations, such as dealing with grief, loss, love, and forgiveness. He discusses ways to make prayers more personal and powerful, and how to establish a practice of prayer that works for each reader.

Dr. Keller’s previous books and biblical teaching have helped millions, and with Prayer, he’ll show them and us how to find a deeper connection with God.
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​Prayer is one of the most precious aspects of the Christian life. So, what do you think of when you think of prayer?
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Ashley Rowland | HISsparrowBlog link
2/15/2021 11:09:41 am

I love how you put this: "Prayer. That one word represents so many things to me: peace, beauty, communion, praise, duty, failure, distraction, forgetfulness, absence, frustration."

Prayer can have such a range of mixed emotions. For me, it seems like no matter what I do, I can't get away from the feeling of not doing something right. But prayer isn't about doing everything right. It's about showing up to talk to our Savior—the relationship.

I love your questions. I'll be keeping them in mind.

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Cami
2/18/2021 05:14:11 pm

I love that, Ashley! You’re so right. Prayer isn’t about doing everything right but showing up. We miss out on the blessings of a deeper relationship with our God when we worry too much about getting everything right before sitting down to speak with Him.

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Jeanne Takenaka link
2/16/2021 07:18:23 am

Cami, God has brought so many posts about prayer onto my radar this past week that I think He's inviting me to go deeper into this spiritual discipline. Your post is so insightful. I loved your questions asked.

Like you, I find myself praying when I'm driving, cutting up vegetables, and doing other tasks. And though I don't think this is bad, I also think that you're right. Having a devoted prayer time where I sit and just talk with God is something I need to re-integrate into my days. Thanks for that encouragement!

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Cami
2/18/2021 05:16:47 pm

Jeanne, I have been having the same experience! Several of my friends and family have mentioned that they are reading books on prayer or focusing on their prayer life this year. That was what motivated my own evaluation of my prayer life. Maybe God is moving His people to pray this year!

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Donna B Reidland link
2/16/2021 08:34:14 am

Such important questions! I think my bent is to tend toward being ritualistic. I think I've grown in that area but as a list/system person it's easy to fall into. I have been reading Paul Miller's book on prayer and loving it! I, also, like Donald Whitney's book Praying the Bible. It's another way to keep your prayers fresh and not, as he says, prayer the same old way about the same old things. Great post!

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Cami
2/18/2021 05:30:40 pm

I’m a list maker as well, Donna, so I have the same struggle. Thanks for the book recommendation! I’ll have to look up Praying the Bible!

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