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4 Ways to Help Your Child Develop Healthy Relationships

3/22/2019

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4 Ways to Help Your Child Develop Healthy Relationships
Developing relationships is a continuous part of life. From an early age friendships are made—some for the short-term others for a lifetime.​Your child will make friends, and unless he or she is guided by the wise advice of loving parents, they can easily make friends with the wrong people.

The choice of friends during the formative school years can, and often does, influence a child for their entire life. A vital part of parenting is laying out a biblical foundation for your child to follow when selecting friends.

God's Word, the Bible, plays a vital role in how we should choose our friends. What better advice can a child, or a parent, receive than the wisdom and knowledge contained in the pages of Scripture? From Genesis to Revelation principles and examples of good friendships, like David and Jonathan, provide Christians guidance in building healthy relationships.

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​These are just a few of the instructive verses that parents and children alike should take note of. These verses alone will give you and your child insight to biblical guidelines for selecting godly friends and developing healthy relationships.
 "Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm." ​Proverbs 13:20

"Do not be deceived: Bad company ruins good morals." ​1 Corinthians 15:33

​"One who is righteous is a guide to his neighbor [friend], but the way of the wicked leads them astray." ​Proverbs 12:26

"Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another." ​Proverbs 27:17 

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4 Ways to Help Your Child Develop Healthy Relationships:
  1. Evaluate relationships in the light of God's Word. Avoid giving your child a checklist for selecting friends. Instead, have them develop a list of character traits they should look for in their friends. These character traits can be based on their personal Bible study. Don't attempt to choose your child’s friends for them. Teach him or her how to best choose their own friends. In doing so, you will help them see that they must be wise as serpents and innocent as doves. “Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves" (Matthew 10:16). Obviously, if your child makes friends with someone who has serious, known character flaws, you need to carefully monitor that relationship. In some instances, you may even need to expose your child’s friend for their true character. Help your child understand the power of uplifting or demeaning characteristics in their friends as these characteristics will either uplift or demean your child.
  2. Invite your child’s friends into your home. Be the home that your child's friends want to hang out at. This allows you the opportunity to observe their behavior and listen to their speech. It's best to invite just one child at a time. Take some time to play and communicate with your child’s friend. Get a feel for their character. Build a relationship with your child's friend, AND their parents. Get to know them. Insights can be gained by interacting and observing the effect they have on your child. Once children get comfortable, they tend to reveal their true personalities. Inviting them into your home may infringe on some of your evenings or even a weekend, but this investment of time will always be a benefit.
  3. Discuss the behavior of your child’s friends. Don't allow this to become a time of criticism, but instead, make it an opportunity to explore the dynamics of peer to peer relationships. Emphasize accepting and loving others as Christ loves us. At the same time however, honestly evaluate any characteristics that are not Christ-like. This is the time to explain to your child the strong influence that friends have on us and the importance of choosing godly friends. Though you have the final word on who your child spends time with, honestly examine with them how each of his or her friend’s character traits could affect their life. There may be some friends your child wants to share Christ with or offer encouragement to. Cautiously allow them these opportunities. Some of the relationships your child pursues may require extensive parental involvement. Be willing to set the example of loving as Christ loved. Encourage a balance of friends—some that will lift your child up spiritually and some who your child lifts up spiritually.
  4. Involve your child in friendship-making activities. A Bible-believing church, Christian school or homeschool groups, and Christian camps are all excellent places to begin. Some traditional organizations and athletic teams offer activities that will expose children to positive friends as well. Do be aware though that not every child attending a Christian activity will be a positive influence on your child. Evaluate each individual according to the Scriptural guidelines that you and your child have determined to establish the kind of friend he or she will be to your child.
​Friends play an undeniable part in the growth process of our children. In today’s fast-paced society, it is easy to assume that our children’s friendships will take care of themselves, or that Christian friends are always safe for our children. These are not wise assumptions. As in all other aspects of life our children must be taught how to evaluate relationships in the light of God’s Word.

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We as parents have the responsibility of teaching our children how to choose good friends and develop healthy relationships. So, what do you do to assure that your children have the tools they need to do this?
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Kristi Woods link
3/22/2019 10:21:46 am

LOVE these ideas! Yes to each of them. Gosh, I wish I'd had the wisdom for #1 when my kids were young. Some of them "found" it on their own--praise Jesus--and some are still working through their checklist, strengthening decisions as they go. But they're getting there. And that's important. Blessings to you from #faithonfire linkup.

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Patsy Burnette link
3/22/2019 12:16:55 pm

Thanks for stoping by Kristi. Raising teens is so challenging. I'm so glad God steps in and does the needed work when we don't know what to do. He is so merciful and full of grace— for them and us.

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Angela Johnson link
3/22/2019 11:27:08 am

This is great. Such an important topic. I have always said I want to be the house where my kids friends want to hang out. If they are here then I know where they are and who they are with. I am sharing this and pinning this. Great article!

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Patsy Burnette link
3/22/2019 12:19:59 pm

Thanks so much for sharing and pinning Angela! It's fun being the house everyone wants to hang out at. Fun and challenging, all at the same time!

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Cheryl Gerou link
3/22/2019 10:00:40 pm

Great post. Each one of the points made is so important! This is especially true today when there is so much peer pressure, and so many dangers for young people pulled into the wrong group of friends. Thank you for sharing this!

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Patsy Burnette link
3/23/2019 02:40:45 pm

Thank you Cheryl! Peer pressure and bullying are so prevalent today. Our kids need our support and a lot of prayer!

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Elizabeth Stewart link
3/24/2019 10:20:13 am

I'm your neighbor at Dare2Hear today. What a great and practical guide for helping children make godly friends!

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Patsy Burnette link
3/24/2019 07:12:36 pm

Hi neighbor! :) Thanks Elizabeth. This has been one of my favorite posts to work on. I just love kids of all ages. We have a post coming next Friday on adult children. I especially love my adult children. They are so much fun. It's a blessing. Just like the Bible says— children are a blessing from the Lord. Thanks for stopping by!

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Aimee Imbeau link
3/28/2019 07:26:40 pm

If we want our kids to have healthy relationships, that means we also must have healthy relationships ourselves - modelling what one looks like for our kids. And then what to do when a relationship is unhealthy. I appreciate all 4 of your points and they are spot on. Thanks for sharing on Grace & Truth. I'll be sharing on social media!

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Patsy Burnette link
3/29/2019 02:13:18 pm

Thank you so much Aimee :) That's a great point— modeling those relationships in our own lives for our children to see.

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