But for the Christian marriage, for the marriage that seeks to bring God great honor and reflect Christ’s relationship with the church, we have the opportunity to throw those cultural proverbs into a blender. Christian marriages can create a new proverb: “Familiarity makes the heart grow fonder.”
As God ordained our marriages, He created one flesh out of two people. And, in times like this, we have the golden opportunity to live daily as one flesh in increased ways. This begs a very important question—what can we do to build into our marriages during this time of social distancing and isolation?
Here are 4 ways you can build your marriage during social distancing:
1. Create Memories
A lack of time together often keeps us from making great memories. Work schedules, long commutes, soccer practice, dance lessons, and social obligations often limit our time with our spouses. For many of us, this pandemic has drastically changed our schedules and has opened up an unlimited amount of togetherness.
Take advantage of that opportunity by:
2. Catch Up on Conversations
If your marriage is anything like mine, there are important topics that can get bumped down the to-do list. This is a perfect time to catch up.
Create a list of all of the things you need to discuss:
Then pick a time of the day or a day of the week and gradually work through the list. If you don’t complete a conversation, that’s okay. You have tomorrow or next week to continue. You’ll be amazed at the growth God creates in your marriage when you discuss the things you’ve put off for weeks, months, or years. As both husband and wife earnestly desire to please God in these conversations, you’ll find more than sufficient grace from above to be make these times constructive.
For this idea in particular, you’ll find helpful tips in this book: With These Words: Five Communication Tools for Marriage and Life. It will provide help and guidance as you catch up on conversations.
3. Learn Together
Find some common areas of interest and learn something new.
4. Develop a Routine
Most of us are finding our daily routines entirely disrupted.
This can all result in a lack of order that can quickly generate anxiety and conflict.
To combat this tendency, create a routine.
Each of these practical rhythms can serve to establish a sense of normalcy and healthy relational habits.
Some of these ideas will be more useful to you than others, depending on your individual situation. Use these suggestions to spur on your own creative thinking. We know that God desires us to cherish our spouse in all seasons and to grow together in Christlikeness. Hidden within this global pandemic are boundless opportunities to do that. Don’t miss them! Seize the opportunities of this unique season and come out of this crisis stronger and healthier as a married couple.
Every couple knows they need to talk with each other. Every couple knows they need to pay attention and communicate better.
About the Author
Rob Flood serves as a Community and Care Pastor at Covenant Fellowship Church in Glen Mills, PA where his responsibilities include marriage ministry and counseling. The Floods have six children who provide an array of excitement in the home through their varied giftings and personalities. Together, Rob and Gina enjoy caring for married couples of all ages by opening the Word of God and spending time with family and friends. With These Words is Rob's first book.
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